secret (daw) to a long lasting relationship!

Everybody gets hooked to falling in love. Believe it or believe it, for sure nainlove ka na. but most of these love didnt last pero may mga mapapalad din naman na sa simbahan ang tuloy ng pagiibigang ito. there are so many things to consider para magtagal ang relationship niyo. and i admit ang dami ko ng nabasa. some of it did work out but some did not. para paraan nga lang yan di ba? minsan ang hirap din pag marami kang nababasang tips or secrets to sucessful relationships dahil in my experience, i tend to make things perfect or work out basing everything sa mga nababasa ko. dahil minsan diskarte ninyong dalawa if paano niyo iwowork-out yung relationship hindi dumedepende sa nababasa. nevertheless, hope ul get something from this. this was emailed to me by one of my friends. happy reading!

The guy who loves his mom will be a good boyfriend. Why? Because if he has
high respect for his mother, he will have high respect for women.

Don’t give everything away. Leave some things a mystery. Guys love
conquest. If you already give your all, wala ng something to look forward
to sa relationship nyo. And the guy will become kampante. Assure him of
your love and faithfulness, but warn him too: “umayos ka diyan! You can
lose me anytime…”.

BIG PAGKAKAIBA: What a girl needs most is love. What a guy needs most is
respect. The most important thing for a girl is her heart. For a guy its
his ego.

Give your man his own time and space. Let him have his time for his
friends, sports, family, self, and God. The relationship will grow old
quickly if lagi kayong magkasama. Give him time to miss you and you’ll see
how he will love you more. If the guy naman is obsessed and just wants to
be with you all the time, tell him you cant respect a “puppy” for long.

Do things differently anytime. Para kahit matagal na kayo, there is always
something fresh and new. Variety is the spice of life. Exciting baga?

“Making love” is better than just “having sex”. And true love “waits”.
Save your precious “gift” on your wedding night. Di nagiging tama ang
mali, just because uso naman and everyone’s doing it. Be iba.

Discover something you both like to do and enjoy it TWOgether. Doon naman
sa mga bagay na magkaiba ang hilig nyo, compliment each other by learning
about it kahit konti. If you love someone, yung effort nyo to try will go
a looooong way to understanding him later pag may disagreement kayo.

Pray with holding hands. Sounds corny noh? Maybe, but its very powerful.
Pag may takot sa Diyos ang boyfriend,mo, kampante ka na di ka nya
lolokohin, because he knows God sees everything he does in secret. Ikaw na
ang magkusa that before you part after date, with hold hands and eyes
closed, pray to God to bless you two. Believe me it’s effective.
Kailanman, di corny ang magdasal.

Never think “mababago ko sya pag kami na…”. Only God can change a
person, and only if the guy wants to. Even God cannot steer parked cars.

Believe in “Magic”. Kahit di minsan practical o walang logical na dahilan,
o matrabaho, o sounds crazy sa iba, do sweet little things for the one you
love kahit magmukha ka ng ewan. The memories will be fun to recall later

in life.

True love brings out the best in each other. Find something good in your
boyfriend and nurture it, encourage it and syempre, ENJOY it.

It’s healthy to fight. Doon nyo lang maaayos ang mga differences nyo at
natetest ang tatag ng relationship. Doon mo rin sya makikilala ng mabuti.
Its called test of fire. Di mahalaga how dalas you fight. What matters is
how often you make bati. Mas nakakatakot yung relasyong sobrang perfect at
laging masaya. One big fight and that’s it! And diba mas kilig yung
malambing na… “uy, bati na tayo…”.

But don’t overdo it. Kakapagod naman din na lagi na lang manuyo o magsori.
Choose the battles na papatulan mo. The little issues, palampasin na.
Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Daraan sa iba’t-ibang stages ang love especially pag matagal na kayo. Grow
with it. Don’t expect him to be like nung una. ‘Coz like a student, di na
ituturo sa grade 6 yung lessons na pang-grade 2. Change WILL happen… you
both will change and your love WILL change too. It’s up to you na lang if
the change will be for the better or for the worse. Life is about growth.
Grow with it.

When break up comes and it’s time to say goodbye, don’t doubt the love
just because it didn’t last. May mga bagay sa buhay na di man nagtatagal,
it doesn’t mean di na ito totoo. Some good things are just never meant to
last forever. Okay lang yon. Bless the parting and move on.

Expect tears, sorrow, sleepless nights and pain. Ika nga ng cute na poet
na si William Ramos (teka ako yun ah?), sa isang quote nya: “it’s when you
hurt the worse that you love the MOST.” Kung di ka willing masaktan, wag
ka na lang magmahal.

Life is a balance. And love is both holding on and letting go. Know when
to fight for your man and when to let him go. God will guide you kung
anong dapat gawin sa kung anong sitwasyon. So dapat mataas ang signal ng
langit sa cellfone ng puso mo to know His wisdom.

Do things right. Di totoong masarap ang bawal gaya ng sabi ng iba. Kasi
may kabayaran yon later. Corny ang madali. Paghirapan mong gawin ang tama
at totoo and one day ikaw din ang aani ng bunga nito.

DATE IDEAS: A walk in the park, along the bay area watching the sunset,
biking sa big, open spaces, stargaze at night sa ibabaw ng bubong, jog @ 5
am and wait for the sunrise, singing with a guitar (or a walkman) under a
tree’s shade sharing hopia and siomai (yikes!). Wag lagi sa mall. Involve
nature. The best things in life pa rin ay free. Di kailangan gumasta ng
malaki para sumaya o maging romantic. Be creative.

Honesty is the best policy… ika nga ni Jimmy Santos. Pero laging nasa
timing at paraan ng pagsasabi ang technique. Pag malumanay mong sasabihin
sakin na ipagpapalit mo na ako sa iba o papatayin mo na ko sa sobrang
gigil, Gosh! Mato-touch pa ko! May lambing eh!

Don’t NAG. Sabi ng don’t nag eh! Sabi ko don’t nag, don’t nag, don’t
naaaaaaggg!!!

Yung effort, sa kahit anong gawain o effort mo ay laging 2 billion ganda

points yan. Do little surprises every now and then. PARA SO HAPPY
TWO-GETHER!!!

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  1. Pingback: secret (daw) to a long lasting relationship! | Relationship Advise - Dating Disasters

  2. cocoy826

    Madalas akong ma-inlive noon lalo na kapag magaganda at seksi ang mga nakikilala ko. Inaabangan paglabas ng klase at ihahatid sa kanilang tirahan,una medyo nahihiya pa kunyari at no touch pa,pagnayaya na sa sine ay holding hands na paglabas at may goobye lips to lips na,then pag nakapunta na sa bandang liko ay forgets na.Kaya sana ay huwag na kayong makatagpo ng katulad ko ng panahon ko,marami ang naloka sa akin at ngayon,na realized ko papano na kaya siya ngayon,–To all the girls I love before–Baka nagtampo ang naging asawa nila sa unang gabi ng kanilang honeymoon,sana no expierence ang mga naging mister nila para kakagat sa kunyaring aray para maging maganda ang pagsasama nila.Kaya kayong mga chicks ingat lang at huwag kaagad isurender ang bataan kung di kayo sigurado sa lalaki,kasi marami ang gusto lang kayong dalhin sa kama.

  3. hi sir cocoy, salamt po sa mga paalala sa mga readers natin. tama po kayo, kelangan kaunting ingat lang. huwag pabigla bigla sa pag-ibig dahil darating din tayo diyan. minsan kasi o di man minsan ang mga kabataan ngayon ay sobrang mapusok. at a young age may experience na because they thought it was love. nwei, everything happens for a purpose.

    salamat po sa komento! Godbless!

  4. Angelie

    waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah I like you post.. may naalala akong bigla sa mga ganyang salita heheheh:)… keep the good points…

    angelie

  5. hi angelie… no problem… u should have look on to other posts, too. tnx for passing!😉

  6. nikkikhai

    i like your post.
    it taught me something.
    thanks.

  7. nikkikhai

    i like your post.
    it taught me something.
    thanks.
    naktulong ng marami..

  8. no problem nikki!😉

  9. ..ahm.. helo, i realy like ur post.., ssubukan qng sundin lhat sa nbasa q.. to keep our relationship last!!, bcuz i really him!!, ^_^ thnks…heheeh

  10. Neil

    Thank you Ms. Yhen.
    Nakuha lahat ng ibig mong sabihin. Nakakatuwa at may mga ganitong post na nakakatulong sa mga kapwa ko readers na hangad ang isang “long lasting relationship”.
    Keep posting! God Bless Ms. Yhen!
    neilfelias@gmail.com

  11. I like your post, nakaka inspire po talaga..

  12. Jenn

    Hi Miss Yhen,

    Thanks for the delightful message posted up there. I think this will be very helpful.

  13. nainspire po aq super kc super aq nkarelate kc gnyan kme ng boyfrend ko eh long distance mdalas malungkot kc mis ko cia1!!pero sana cya na tlga tnx

  14. ano ba gawin ko lagi kami nag aaway ng boyfriend q atsaka ngayon makaramdam na ako nang selos kapag may iba siyang katxt na di ko nmn kilala,di namn ako nagselos dati eh,ngayon lang,.parang kabaligtaran ng bf ko ,kasi siya yung magselos noon at ako namn ang may ktxt mga kaibigan ko lang namn na mga guy pero nagselos siya.ano gwin ko pra maiwasan namin ang aming pag aaway,2years na po kami.

    • Hi Anilyn, thank you for sharing your prob. actually, it’s normal to have jealousy in a relationship, it only means na you really love each other kasi you get affected with the things na ginagawa ng bawat isa. Pero if yung pagseselos ay napapadalas na, minsan for no reason at all eh nagseselos ka, yun ay di tama. The thing bout guys, pag mas lalo kang nagiging selosa or possesive nagkakatendency cla na lumayo o dumistansiya. But if you show them that you are secure na kahit anong gawin nila dika masyadong affected, mas ivavalue ka nila.

      So if you have no reason at all para magselos, you have to check yourself first. You have to understand na kapag nagiging selosa ang isang babae nagiging clingy siya at yan ay ultimate turn-off sa guys. Kaya to keep the relationship going, you have to live your own life. Kumbaga, mahalin mo muna sarili mo, mag enjoy ka maski wala siya… or in other words, wag mo siyang gawing mundo mo. For sure u have friends, so enjoy ur time with them, or with your family.. basta mag enjoy ka lang muna sa buhay but make sure you will not compromise the relationship. Be there pa rin naman for him bilang gf if he needs you, or if he wants you to be around. basta don’t push yourself too much okay🙂

      Hope this helps.🙂

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