kaninang umaga itong mga shots na ito pagdating ko sa opisina. muli na namang naglaro ang mga kamay ko at ang lente ng camera ko kaya ito… gusto ko lang din kasi makita kung normal pa ba ako? hehe! sa kabutihang palad ayan tao pa rin.
ayan ang kabuuan… pero narealize ko parang lumalaki na yung mga nunal sa muka ko… hindi ba delikado na yun kapag ganun? normal pa nga ba ako? kelangan ko na bang pa-operahan ito?
maliban sa nunal… grabhe… feeling ko talaga na gain ako ng weight… after i lose weight last year aba ang bilis bawiin ng nawala… holidays lang ang katapat… haaaysh! ano ba ito… ang taba-taba ko na talaga…
haaay ano ba namang life ito… maliban dito, dahil na rin sa kagustuhan kong makulayan ang buhok ko… ayan, ayan na ang nangyari. di ko alam kung bagay ko o hindi. bahala na kayong humusga.
insecure ba ang tawag sa ganito? hehe… sige na insecure na kung insecure eh ganoon talaga. minsan kasi mahirap talaga makontento sa itsura natin. hanggat maari mag paganda tayo ng mag paganda. posible naman yun pero minsan kasi nadadala tayo sa dikta nang society kung ano sa tingin nila ang maganda.
pero ano nga ba ang maganda sa iyo? ako isa lang ang pinaniniwalaan ko. walang taong pangit, mayroon lang maganda, mas maganda, at pinakamaganda. gayunpaman ang mahalaga kung ano tingin natin sa sarili natin. kailangan nang kaunting confidence. ikaw ba ano tingin mo sa sarili?
while browsing the net, wala lang, gusto ko lang talaga malaman if insecure nga ba ako, ito natagpuan ko ang site na ito kung paano nga ba maging secure. ang mga sumusunod ay ilang mga steps para maging secure ka day!
Understand that people are all different and that no one is better than anyone else is. All people are equal and special in their own way.
Tell yourself good things about yourself every day. If you’re constantly replaying negative thoughts about yourself in your head, reprogram yourself to recognize and appreciate the things about yourself that are positive and original.
Take care of yourself. Treat yourself well the same way you treat those you love by taking care of your health and well-being and do things that you enjoy in life.
Learn to control your anxiety. It’s completely natural to feel anxious when faced with challenging situation, but the key is learning to control your anxiety so it doesn’t control you.
Plan ahead for life’s difficulties. Prepare for those situations that you can control to help you be secure.
Work to be secure. Learning to be secure is hard work, but the results are worth it.
Anger is never the appropriate response NO one likes to deal difficult people. Ask any person in the customer service industry and they will tell you the hardest part of their job is a difficult customer. Whether it is a difficult customer or boss, friend aquatint or what have you. The main key is not to let people or the situation get the best of you. The first and most important tip is staying calm. NO matter how angry you or the other person are “YOUR CALMNESS IS YOUR PROTECTION.” Behavior is an absolute indicator of emotional intelligence and will prove without a shadow of a doubt, your ability to handle a difficult situation.
Be the change you want to see in the world. As hard as it may seem you have to find a common ground no matter how uncommon your interest or sides of view are. People argue or get angry because they feel that their opinion or experience was not validated.
The rule of thumb is if you want to calm an angry person down you have to find something to agree with them on, before you can request them, to agree with some point of view you might have. Angry people are generally very passionate about what they feel and if you can validate a portion of that passion you have a small window of opportunity to gain compliance.
Use this as an advantage to open a line of communications with that individual, give them a compliment and constructive criticism at the same time. Most people don’t know how to deal with these types of statements as they are not congruent with a intrinsic emotional reaction. People generally have to stop and think about what you said and choose to agree on one or the other. The key with this strategy is that it stops them from a drunken emotional angry binge and causes them to think, and as we all know thinking is what keeps us out of trouble.
You sign off on what is exceptable. When dealing with difficult people you must always establish a boundary of what is acceptable and not exceptable behavior. Remember they are testing you by getting angry. They want you to be a supporter of their angry behavior, by getting angry with them. Use step 2 to help you create these boundaries. If you don’t create boundaries you are quietly authorizing the other person to mentality and verbally abuse you.
After dealing with the emotional dump of an argument, find things that empower you and go do them. Go running, read a book do anything that will stop you from holding on to any feelings of guilt, anger or frustration. The truth is you dealt with the problem and its over for now, be proud of the fact that you ran towards the difficult situation and not away. Trust me this will help you let go and in the process develops your sanity muscles. There are many ways to deal with difficult people these are just a few easy ways to do that. We all have these skills, the question is how often do we excercise them? What about you? Was there a time in your life that you had to deal with a difficult person? How did you deal with it? and what did you learn?