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bleeding…

have you ever felt being so lonely at times because you feel so helpless of the situation you’re into?

i really don’t know how i can put my feelings into words right now but i really can’t handle the pain am feelin.

i cant understand why bad things need to happen not just once but many times especially the things that hurt you most.

i know iam not a perfect person but i also assure u dat i was never a very bad person at all which made me think and ask myself, do i really deserve the pain and the hurt am feelin.

im broken. pls help me fix myself and make me whole again.

i dont have much to say ryt now but still wishing you all a happy weekend!

GodBless!

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lessons from 2009

extremely happy… extremely sad…

extremely exciting… extremely boring…

last year, i had the most extreme experienced. the ups and downs were very visible. tila ba sumasabay lang sa sitwasyon ng pinas.

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the process…

I am guilty for being idle these past few days. I didn’t choose this but circumstances allowed me to think and take some time to think more. Again, i realized that healing is a process. It cannot happen in an instant or in a glimpse of an eye.

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wala akong dapat ikalungkot… (huhuhuhu!)

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a PRAYER from the HEART!

This past few days, life has been so miserable. experiencing the pain brought about by the so-called love is the hardest part of loving. we have to take risk, to sacrifice, and to let go, just for us to be MATURE. thou my heart is broken, i know God has his own way of putting back its pieces. so here’s a simple prayer:

“God, i don’t understand it, but i trust you. And I’m not going to spend all my time trying to figure out why certain things have happened. I’m going to trust you to make something good out of it. You’re a good God, and I know you have my best interests at heart. You promised that all things will work together for my good.”

Amen!

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The one that got away!

Source: The Manila Times
By: Mark J. Macapagal

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become deal breakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you’re single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter.

All you know is that you’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.
You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” You’ll wonder, “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?” That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple find him, find her. Because the very existence of a “the one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got this one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be “the one that got away” as well for the person who is your “the one that got away.”

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away.”

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I was just struck by this message… and felt sad.

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“how can we love people who don’t seem to make things worth at all? why do we become so numb caring for people whom at times don’t even think of us in day or two? why do we let ourselves hurt and continue hoping for a love that makes us defenseless? and why do we prioritize this people who only choose us as options? are these the reasons why sometimes in love, we end up losing ourselves? stupid, isn’t it?”

i really don’t understand why at some point we need to undergo this feelings of resentment. it really bothers me how love is designed to hurt people. nevertheless, i believe that there is a reason and a purpose for everything. God does not allow challenges, pains, struggles, and weaknesses that we cannot overcome.

It is indeed an eye opener that nobody can give us a perfect love exept GOD.

Thank you Lord!

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am i too jealous???!!! (Pahabol sa Pebrero)

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How to control the green-eyed monster

Question: Why do I get so jealous when my partner talks to other people?

Answer: When you first connected with your partner and looked into their eyes, it felt like he or she was the only person in the room. As you get deeper into your relationship and call yourselves a couple, the realization hits you: You and your partner are not alone on this planet. There are others! Are they a threat?

When we are in a committed relationship, we assume the connection we have with each other will be strong enough to fend off outside threats. In some ways, this you-belong-to-me-and-I-belong-to-you mentality is sweet; it’s the stuff of pop songs and poetry. But sometimes the intensity of that connection is too strong.

When one partner sees everyone whom his or her partner comes into contact with as a potential threat, it is

“a sign that jealousy has taken hold.”

Shakespeare called it “the green-eyed monster,” and once it gets a hold of your relationship, it sinks its teeth in and can rip it apart.

What causes jealousy?

If you’ve got strong feelings of jealousy, it’s probably a sign that you don’t have enough trust in your partner that he or she is being faithful to you. That lack of trust may be prompted by one of four factors.

  • You may feel insecure about your self-worth. In these cases, either you’ve been raised to believe, or some part of your inner self feels, that you just don’t measure up. Because you don’t love yourself, you can’t believe that others would love you, so you live in fear that your partner’s “true” feelings will be revealed and she will leave.
  • You’re prone to cheating on your partner — maybe even have done so. Knowing what you’re capable of, you project that behavior onto your partner.
  • You and your partner haven’t yet figured out how to

“establish safe boundaries within the relationship.”

Having a tight bond is about building walls around your love with windows that allow others to be part of it — not doors where competing lovers can walk right in and disrupt your home. Because you don’t know what’s permissible within the relationship and what’s not, you’re constantly on your toes.

  • Your mate is cheating on you. Cheating doesn’t have to include sex; it often has to do with making emotional connections to others outside the relationship. If your partner is sharing things about your private life with attractive members of the opposite sex, it robs a sense of intimacy from your relationship and leaves you feeling vulnerable.

Knowing the factors that lead to jealousy is an important first step to getting things fixed.

“Put your focus on building trust”

If you’ve got some growing up to do, therapy may help. Both of you have to learn how to set boundaries in the relationship. That requires respecting your mate’s definition of limits of outside relationships from the start.

Over time, as trust builds, you and your partner can redefine what feels safe for the relationship. After all, when you’ve got a great relationship, you want to share it with the world.

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